As my girlfriend and I ready ourselves for our New Years evening, I was inspired to come up with a list of New Years resolutions for 2008. This list is for those of us who aren’t single for the New Years. So that means you won’t find any resolutions like:

“Get laid.”

Or, maybe you will have that as a resolution even though you aren’t single. That being said: if you are in a relationship that is stale enough that you are hoping to get some just once this year, then maybe you should consider spicing up your love life a bit.

So here we are, without further delay:

10 New Years Resolutions for the “Not-So-Single”

1. Do something for someone your partner cares about – this one is often overlooked. Many times you can evoke more joy and happiness out of your partner by doing something kind for someone they care about. Maybe they have a sick grandmother that they are worried about. Or maybe they haven’t seen their mom in a long time. Instead of offering something to your partner, why not ask them if you can get something for someone they love or ask if they can help you get something for someone they love.
2. Stop being jealous/worrying – relationships should be a bastion of truth, honesty and commitment towards another person. If you are doubting the other person in their commitment to you, then you should have a conversation with your partner about it. That way, they won’t be paranoid that you’re always watching what they’re doing and you can rest at ease when they go out for a “night with the guys/girls”.
3. Make your partner smile everyday – by remembering to do this each, and every day, you (and your partner) will always have something to look forward to. In addition, it allows you to go through your day a bit easier. Just because you and your partner may have been cranky at each other in the morning, doesn’t mean that you don’t have a smile on their face to look forward to for later.
4. Honesty, honesty, honesty… – if you tell the truth, then you don’t have to remember what you said. If your partner finds a lie within you, then they will probably dig until they find more. Not only does that lead them down a path of doubt and frustration, but it hampers your ability to be honest with your partner in the future.
5. Find new ways to show your partner you care – do something different to keep the relationship from getting tired or stale. Got an anniversary coming up? Try making a card or writing them a poem instead of sending flowers or buying jewelry. Your partner will thank you for the thoughtful gift and you might find you enjoy doing something different!
6. Sacrifice a habit for your partner – doing something that your partner is constantly asking you to stop? Maybe you fart as soon as you roll over every morning or don’t flush every time and it drives your partner crazy. Instead of making a resolution for yourself, tell your partner that you resolve to do something for them. Me, personally? I’m going to try and stop using derogatory language about women around my girlfriend. I’m pretty sure she’ll dig it.
7. Trade a “Never By Myself” with your partner – this is an easy one. You and your partner come up with something that you would never do on your own. This could be something as simple as “actually go in to Victoria Secret with you,” or something as crazy as, “jump out of an airplane.” Either way, pick something that your partner would love to do that you know you never would. Once you have traded your “Never By Myself,” you may find that you enjoy the activity after all.
8. Get healthier for yourself – and let your partner know that is the case. A lot of times people like to hear that they are the inspiration for change in someone. But, if you let your partner know that they inspire you to change yourself, then they will love and appreciate it even more.
9. Offer to fulfill a fantasy – this is another great one to trade! This fantasy can be romantic or not. (though if you are one of those in a relationship, and ‘getting laid’ is one of your resolutions, then you may want to make this a romantic proposition)

And the top resolution for the “Not-So-Single” for 2008:

10. If you are in a bad relationship, GET OUT – and do it quick. If you are in an abusive or negative relationship, then you owe it to yourself to get help, get out, and move on. If you are in an abusive relationship: make this resolution your top priority this year. Remember, there is all kinds of help available.

Being that I am a web developer, you would think I would have looked into this sooner.

The default installation of Wordpress is very, extremely, embarrassingly insecure.

I would think that, given the commonality of Apache installations for web servers these days that Wordpress would come with some basic .htaccess installation options. However, this is not the case. So, I did a quick search and came upon a great article from Hackosis that has a lot of great suggestions for .htaccess files that you can should install if you have a web host that uses Apache.

You can find that website here:
10 Ways to Secure your Wordpress Install

If you are unsure what your web host is using then you should ask them. If they don’t know, then you should switch to a different service.

Well, my girlfriend has had a severely happy weekend. Her favorite athlete in the world, Chuck Liddell won his UFC fight. This is after coming off of a 3 loss streak. We had a few people over. It was fun to see her let loose and have a good time. We both drank a bit more than we should have but we had a great time.

Today, we went out and got her some new glasses. They are Versace glasses that look pretty similar to mine. You can check out some similar looking pairs here

The fact that they cost so much bothered me at first. But, they were really nice and the woman who helped us offered assistance in the form of a coupon. By the time everything was said and done, she went home a happy woman. Of course, when you ask her about the combination of plastic and glass that now adorn her face she just says:

“It’s the nicest thing I own.”

At least she can show it off all the time.